To the defeated and tired cosplayer: It will be okay

This is a heartfelt message for my fellow cosplayers who need some encouragement today. If you know someone who needs to hear this message please share this on your social media or tag them on the original post on my Facebook Page here.

You are AMAZING!screen-shot-2016-11-14-at-11-03-30-am

Your ability to overcome obstacles that are in your path, to try something new, and to step outside your comfort zone is a powerful thing. As a cosplayer you have this amazing drive to put your heart and soul into this hobby, and sometimes the heart can be hurt.

Maybe you don’t feel your work is good enough. Maybe you have proceeded in comparing yourself to other cosplayers, and you think that they are far better so why should you try anymore.


Maybe you have lost that spark and that passion to sit down and complete a project, or the thought of even starting a new one is super overwhelming. Hell, maybe you have a few past projects laying around that seem to be silently calling your name saying ‘you need to complete me!’.

Maybe with all the new social media trends you feel defeated. With so many platforms to communicate on and all the work to keep the support you have you sit back in your chair and wonder ‘How will I ever keep up with all this?’.
Or maybe, to put it quite simply, you just feel like you are nobody. That you are just another person in the world, and that what you do doesn’t matter so why bother anymore with creating content or continuing on with this hobby.

If you are experiencing anything mentioned above then please read on, because my message to you is SUPER IMPORTANT!

f0da0c8cb9bf2c7c5f7ae68a52072d56--hatasune-miku-vocaloidYou may not feel like the work you do is good enough, and that’s okay! As cosplayers we have this impractical need to have everything ‘perfect’ when it comes to our cosplays. And in the end the details that may not have turned out how you wanted and appear imperfect in your eyes will more than likely go unnoticed by others. PLEASE don’t allow yourself to get so caught up in having things be perfect, and beat yourself up mentally when it’s not.
We all start at the beginning. We all learn at different speeds, and we all have areas which appear harder to learn/perfect then others. This is called being human and we are all unique in this sense.


As for losing the spark I get it, I do. Remember it is totally okay to take breaks! In fact I highly reccomend breaks every now and again to sort of disconnect in order to reconnect with yourself. I know that may sound silly, but just like when life gets stressful and you need a vacation the same can be said of cosplaying. Take time to explore another hobby, or just relax and take in the world around you! You may discover new places, new interests, and new friends by doing this.
You WILL feel rejuvenated! And you can choose when to come back to this hobby, or if you want to come back at all.
If you want to take a break but still want to do something for cosplay I would suggest taking a few weeks to research techniques, watch some Cosplay Music Videos for inspiration, or find some positive cosplayers to follow and support. You can learn a lot from others, and they may be the one to help you get that spark back!


When it comes to social media no amount of me saying ‘don’t let it bother you’ will help, I know because I have been in that place plenty of times. When your reach with your content is not doing as well as it used too, or you notice more and more are unfollowing your page it’s easy to get discouraged and say ‘what’s the point’.
Having any form of social media for your cosplay work to be displayed is a personal choice, and it’s a great way to store your photos or progress to look back at later! It’s also a great way to connect with others from conventions you attend, and another way others can send you photos they may have took of you later.
When you start to use these platforms as a self-promotional tool you will notice a few things.
  1. Your reach may not be that good.
  2. The engagement with those who follow your work may be nonexistent. You may post and make comments but they may never respond to your content or comments.
  3. You will attract creepers, trolls, and people who make themselves feel better by bringing you down and critiquing every little thing you do.


Showcasing what you do by showing your work through social media is a great way to meet people and further this passion and love for this hobby that you have! 

When it comes to platforms and increasing the reach of your content you can find out about the inner-workings of social media marketing and learn tips and tricks such as: Best time of the day to post, your audience reach, and special hashtags to help increase your content’s reach.

In most cases platforms like Facebook require payment to increase your contents awareness to others, but when you learn a few tips you can slowly increase your content and further expand on marketing yourself.

You may not have very much engagement with your following. Meaning they may not like or comment as much, and in most cases many will not even see that you have posted any content recently and therefore ‘missed’ your content altogether.

Using Facebook again as an example after a ‘follower i.e like to your page’ has been ‘inactive’ for a certain amount of time Facebook will remove the like from your page. So often times, when someone suddenly re-likes your page it may simply be due to this issue, not because they ‘unliked’ and then returned.

The point here is DON’T LET SOCIAL MEDIA MARKETING GET YOU DOWN! It can be a tangled mess and it can be hard to navigate at times, but give it time and things will get easier.


Also set goals for yourself when it comes to your social media platforms. How often do you want to post content? What sort of content? What’s the end goal of having a page to follow/like?

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be famous. But how you go about it can reflect poorly on yourself, and the people you allow yourself to be associated with will reflect a part of you to those following you.

If you allow yourself to be swept up in ‘Cos-Fame’ you will feel incomplete, and I guarantee you will not have as much support from your following as you would if you took time to get to know them and to encourage them on their own journey.

Remember: This is a community. Many of us are here to help, and many of us have felt a lot of the same emotions and faced some of the same problems. You are not alone.

I hope if you take anything away from this long message it’s that I believe in you, and that I respect your choice to take a break or to stop cosplaying. I truly hope it’s not the later, and that you will enjoy this hobby for many years to come!

Know that myself, as well as many others, are here for you. And all you need to do is reach out. My inbox is always open, as is my messages through my social media pages. You may message me anytime to tell me about what’s going on for you right now, and to ask if I have ever had to deal with the same thing.

You may also message me anytime if you just need someone to be there in that moment, no matter what’s going on. I’ll listen. I won’t judge. I will do my best to help brighten your day, and to offer my advice when asked of it. I’ll try to encourage you and inspire you, and to provide you the support that many have shown to me!


28114448594803ca6bf32d0eba50a555You are loved. You are important. You do matter!

I hope you can see just how amazing you are, and I hope you will surround yourself with friends who also see it and remind you often!




2 thoughts on “To the defeated and tired cosplayer: It will be okay

  1. Thanks for this. I needed to read it.

    I was trying to do my first “real” cosplay build at GenCon 50 this year. I made some serious mistakes, and didn’t take a lot of things into account. I rushed myself to get ready so I could be at a morning event. I rushed my makeup, and didn’t finish everything I’d wanted to. I skipped breakfast because I was late. I hadn’t tried walking any considerable distance in my costume, and learned very quickly that my cloak would fall off and tangle with other costume pieces if I walked at all quickly, or for more than the few paces I’d tried at home. I’d forgotten to add any pockets or storage spaces on the costume, and the costume made carrying a bag difficult.

    All of these things led to me getting very, very, very frustrated. My anxiety took control. I became irrational, and angry (hangry even). After less than an hour at the con on Saturday, I left. I went home. I took the costume off. I was so frustrated I never even stopped to take any pictures. So many regrets. Even worse, I took a lot of it out on my spouse. I was a terrible person that morning because I was feeling rushed, and things went wrong. I spent so much time and energy and effort to make something that I thought would make other people happy, and it made me and my spouse miserable because I was acting like a fool.

    I know I can try again. I learned from the mistakes, and am going to make some design changes. I’m adding some hidden pockets so I don’t have to worry about carrying things. I’m working on securing the cloak better. Most of all I’m making it a priority to not schedule anything that forces me to get ready on a particular schedule.

    I’ll try again. I want this to work. I’ll do it better next time.


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