Why the Cosplay Community is in trouble and what YOU can do about it!


To elaborate further on my post from yesterday: 

I love this hobby with all my heart, and I hate to see the current state of things in the community and the direction it is going in. Below I have put in four sections including ‘Drama in the Community’, and ‘What can we do’.

To see my original post see HERE.

The current condition of the Cosplay Community:

Cosplay is not about having fun anymore. It’s about pumping out enough content to make others happy, to keep your ‘followers’ happy and to continue to ‘prove you are a cosplayer’.
We have become a community that is so focused on ourselves that we forget about others within the community.
We look at a post in the ‘cosplay share groups’ that read something along the lines of:
‘Hi all! I’m new! Would you mind checking out my page and giving me some feedback on my cosplays?! I make them myself!’
And instead of people actually looking and providing feedback they spam that ‘Like’ button as fast as they can and paste in their page link with a ‘I liked your page! Like me back!’.
How is THAT helping this new person? You have missed the conversation with this new member of the community about fandoms you may both share!
We worry too much about what other cosplayers are wearing, and we constantly compare one another. How about instead of complaining about a cosplay that *insert-cosplayer-name-here* did you find another valuable use of your time, like connecting with a fellow cosplayer to catch up?
Ask them how that project they stated a while back is going, what conventions did they have coming up, and maybe help answer some questions they may have that you can help answer!
Stop comparing yourself, AND OTHERS, to another cosplayer. Really…stop. This is not helpful or healthy.
Stop shaming other cosplayers. This goes for EVERYONE!
I recently unfollowed a few cosplayers who claim to promote ‘Cosplay is for everyone‘ and yet I see them CONSTANTLY degrading other cosplayers (both the popular ones and the not so popular) or commenting really nasty things about that cosplayer, simply because they don’t like the content they see. Remember the saying ‘If you don’t have something nice to say don’t say anything at all’? It applies here.
I have said it before and I will say it LOUDER now for the one’s in the back. COSPLAY IS FOR EVERYONE! If you don’t like the content a cosplayer is mainly doing then don’t follow them. If you don’t support their mindset and what they do in the community then DON’T FOLLOW THEM!!
It’s really simple. But going and commenting nasty things about them or degrading another cosplayer for following them is never okay.

Don’t shame people. Skinny, Fat, Race, Gender, Popular or un-popular…shaming is never okay. Cosplay is for everyone and anyone who want’s too (and enjoys) putting on a costume.

Drama in the Community:

Here in Michigan the amount of drama in the Cosplay Community is disgusting!!! I see more posts with rumors being shared, cosplayers hating and bashing other cosers in this community, and those claiming to have more hold in the community then others ie: ‘I’ve been a part of this community longer then you!’.
Let me shatter your dreams for a moment. Not one cosplayer is more important then the next! I repeat, you are NO BETTER then the next cosplayer! I see the drama unfolding where names are dropped, and comments like ‘Well *Cosplayer* is a wannabe, they don’t even sell prints for charity like I do!’ or ‘I’m the Michigan Elsa, I memorized all the lines and even look more like her then *cosplayer* does.’
Giving to charity or making your costume does not make you any better then the person who doesn’t give to charity and buy’s their costume.
Step off your pedestal. The amount of elitism and entitlement I’ve seen from my fellow Michigan cosplayers (and honestly worldwide) here lately is disgusting!

So what can we do about the current condition of the Community?

We can start by identifying the issues in the community, discussing way’s we as a community can combat these issues, and finding positive alternatives that help reshape and better the Cosplaying Community for both here today and for years to come.
I’m not joking when I say this: The Cosplaying Community need’s a reform, a revival of sorts. With any community you need unity (as much as you can get helps!) and a clear understanding of the purpose and future mission of the community in order for it to continue on and be a welcoming, encouraging, and inspiring place for it’s members to thrive in.
This community is very important!
  • It help’s create friendships.
  • It help’s you acquire and continue to perfect various skills, many of which can be used in daily life.
  • It teaches you how to budget your money
  • How to find good deals on travel and lodging.
  • How to hold yourself accountable for your actions.
  • To step outside of your comfort zone and try new things.
  • How to find your self worth.
  • How to love yourself.
Over the rest of the month of January I will be communicating with any and all cosplayers from around the world who wish to take part in discussing the issues in the community, and way’s we can help better the community for everyone.
No rules, just solutions to present problems. No hierarchy, all equals.
If you would like to help with joining the discussion either 1×1 or in a group setting over Discord please let me know via message or my commenting on my page. I will have the Discord set up later this week.
If you are a fellow cosplayer from any state or country and have a love for this community as I do, please don’t let the issues inside the community be ignored anymore.
Speak up. Share this blog entry. Start a conversation with your anime club or communicate with local conventions about how they can create a safe and welcoming place for all cosplayers.

The Take Away & Thought Provoking Questions:

Most important check yourself. Consider the following questions carefully.
Are you comparing yourself too much? Are you spamming that ‘Like’ button without a thought to the cosplayer and just pasting your link and moving on to the next post?
Are you constantly worrying about what your followers think of you, or about providing enough content to satisfy and keep them?
Are you not having fun both with cosplay and the community anymore?
Why do you cosplay? What do you gain from it? What do others gain from you doing it?
And my last question to you is this: What are you going to do about the current condition of the Cosplaying Community now?
Email Me: happycosplayer@gmail.com
Comment on this blog your thoughts!

Miss Kobayashi’s Dragon Maid [Quetzalcoatl / Lucoa Wig Review]

This is a wig review I did for Amazon seller Netgo. I was asked to review this wig for them and have done so in blog and video format. To see the video review for this wig please see my YouTube Channel or the direct link to the video review HERE.

The wig was mailed to me and arrived in four days by the seller Netgo. It arrived in a small box, well packaged, and came inside a sealed bag.

Once out of the bag I did a the standard wig tests I do whenever I get a new wig, and I will rate each test on a scale of 1-5 with 5 being good and 1 not so good.


First glance [4]

At first glance in the bag I thought the wig looked thin, however I was pleasantly surprised to find this was not the case once I pulled it out.

Feel [4]

The wig is made of imported synthetic fibers and is super soft! I would put the softness up with Arda’s brand honestly. You know how you can get a wig and it might have that ‘crisp’ feel to the fibers? No? Please tell me I am not the only one! Not with this beauty! This wig is soft!



Smell [5]

Okay so I am weird, I will admit it, but I smell my wigs. Not just after wearing them, but the moment I purchase a new wig I do a small test. Sometimes when a wig is put into storage it can get a funk to it, you know that plastic like smell. And sometimes wigs will arrive and have other smells to them, like oil or perfume (yikes!). However this wig did not, and passed my smell test with a 5!

Shake test [4]IMG_20170511_154942

Other then some light de-tangling the wig held up good to my first shake test. Now obviously with any long wig you will have a tangle problem the longer you wear it and put it to use, however I am delighted to say that with a few gentle strokes with my hand through the fibers any tangles easily came undone.

Comfort [4]

One of the first wigs to NOT pinch my head! I have a big head I guess…but this wig fit comfortable and was not super hot to wear. I look forward to wearing it more which is saying something!

Overall look [5]

For the character I will use this wig for and what most of you reading this review may use it for it’s perfect! The colors are nice and bright, the wig doesn’t look all shiny like a party city wig does, and it really does suit the character.

Final rating: 4.5/5IMG_20170511_155030

If you are in need of a wig in this style/color then I recommend you purchase from this seller! Not only was the wig great, but the seller was very friendly and complimented my other cosplay photos. They also answered questions I had promptly and mailed the wig in a timely manner.

Approved and recommended by HappyCosplayer for fellow dragon cosplayers.

Thank you Netgo for allowing me to review this beautiful wig! Once I have the horns completed  I will do a private shoot and send you more photos you may feel free to use.


Have a question? Contact me on my cosplay page or via email at happycosplayer@gmail.com


Where’s the love?! A call to arms!

Okay it’s time to be real. Here lately I have been noticing a lot more hate coming from within the cosplay community itself, and this needs to be addressed here and now!

Please consider taking a 3 minute break from whatever you are doing to read this, and to share the following on your social media if you wish to help bring awareness to this issue and challenge others to take a stand against the hate!

Call to arms! End the cosplay hate! I am challenging (Insert/tag friends names here) to join me in taking a stand against the hate coming from within the cosplay community against fellow cosplayers. End the cosplay hate! Love one another, encourage one another, and leave the hate where it belongs: in the trash! Show that you support ending the cosplay hate in the community by going to https://happycosplayer.wordpress.com/2016/06/23/wheres-the-love-a-call-to-arms/ to copy this message and upload a photo of yourself in cosplay holding a #endthecosplayhate sign.

I am serious, the hate coming from within the cosplay community NEEDS TO STOP! And if you are with me, and I mean seriously with me, please copy the above and share it via social media with a photo of you in cosplay with the tag #endthecosplayhate. Challenge your friends to take a stand too!

How am I taking a stand in sharing that?

You are making a public statement via social media that you will not tolerate the hate and harassment going on right now in our community. In posting the above with your picture you are publicly declaring that:

  1. Cosplay is for EVERYONE!
  2. You can be any height, weight, skin color, gender, and so on to cosplay any character!
  3. Harassment by others against a fellow cosplayer, or cosplay, will not be tolerated! It is not okay to belittle someone because they bought/made their costume, spread rumors about a cosplayer, or openly declare hatred for a fellow cosplayer based on the simple fact which is: ‘You don’t LIKE said person’.

This is something that is becoming WAY more of a problem! It is not just those outside the community who are causing this spread of hatred, bullying, and harassment amongst cosplayers and the cosplay community. Now more than ever it seems to be coming from within the community itself: by OTHER cosplayers!

Let me break it down for you real simple. Ready?

Don’t like a cosplayer due to the individuals personality? Don’t follow them. Period. Don’t follow them, and DON’T spread hate about said cosplayer!

Don’t like a particular cosplay someone is wearing for xyz reason? Who cares! The cosplayer is not cosplaying to please you. They are cosplaying for them. So why would you go around saying how much you hate said cosplayers costume?! Be an adult. Move on. If you have nothing nice to say then keep your mouth closed.

Don’t like a cosplayer because they do ‘this’ or ‘that’? Really? I mean…really? If a cosplayer who is known for his/her charity work suddenly decides to change the way they do said charity work then that is not YOUR call what they do. If they decide to start a Patreon, and that bothers you, then don’t take part in supporting said cosplayer through Patreon. But also don’t belittle said cosplayer or hate on them saying ‘if you can’t afford to cosplay then don’t ask others for help’, because often times a cosplayer will start a Patreon because others have said they would like to be a part of what they do in supporting them in this way, and not due to budget issues.

If a cosplayer is known for his/her more revealing costumes and that bothers you then DON’T LOOK! Don’t follow. I mean it, if I suddenly decided to only do ‘sexy’ versions of characters to cosplay as and that offended you in some way then please just stop following me. Because if you have this false mindset that ‘only this is real cosplay’ then just stop right now and allow me to encourage you to go read my blog entry titled: There is no Cosplay Rule-Book!

The more recent hate being spread, as I am sure most of you are aware, is focused again on cosplayer Jessica Nigri.

The amount of cosplayers, keyword is underlined here, who shared these rumors and spread further hate for Jessica on my Facebook newsfeed was downright shocking!!! This woman, no matter your view on her, IS A FELLOW COSPLAYER! I understand she is also a model, and being a model in this community is very cut throat business.

I am not saying you have to like her as a person. I am not saying you have to follow her. What I am saying here is she is a cosplayer, in our community, and she deserves just as much respect and love as the rest of us.

I addressed a few cosplayers who I saw sharing the hate on Facebook myself, and here is a little of what was said (I have screenshots too):


*Shared is the current rumor about Jessica by another cosplayer who uses the words ‘hate and bi–h’ on more than one occasion (referring to Jessica). What follows is what was in the comments of this cosplayers post share*

Person 1: A pretty face will carry people very far. (Person a responds to this: ‘Plastic surgery takes them further’.)

Person 2: So she’s a cosplay supermodel and business woman that only sees fans as a paycheck…and people are shocked about this?

Person 3: People are jealous. She is F—ing sweetheart. Donated 3000 dollars to pulse but oh God she’s such an awful person…Let’s believe everything we read (sarcasm)

Person 4: She donated money that was given to her by someone else, she isn’t a good person, it’s pretty obvious she has a lot of sh–ty receipts on her for a reason.

HappyCosplayer (me): The fact you are posting about a cosplayer like this only proves this point: you are a part of the problem.

Cosplayer 1: Y’all be too much I’m deleting this post. you guy’s literally cant take someones opinion on something without insulting people over it.

This is the more ‘tame’ of the posts I read that day ALONE! So many cosplayers quickly jumped on spreading hate about this woman, stating ‘it’s an opinion’ or ‘it’s true’.

Where as everyone does have the right to their own opinion I want to clarify this: Your own opinion is your right, but when your opinion attacks a cosplayer, or further spreads hate in an attempt to get others rilled up and in turn hate said cosplayer too then no that is not okay. Not at all!

If I have a problem with a cosplayer, for whatever reason, I can be an adult and either ‘address this privately with said person’ (because there is two sides to a coin) or choose to say nothing, and just not follow/support them. You will not find me, HappyCosplayer, spreading hate or rumors about a fellow cosplayer.

So consider taking the pledge with me in helping end the cosplay/cosplayer hate. Confront cosplayers when you see them spreading hate, or rumors, about another cosplayer. Take a stand against bullying, harassment, and hate within our community.

Love one another. Respect one another. And enjoy this hobby and all it has to offer!


My Facebook- http://www.facebook.com/happycosplayer

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Other social links: Tumblr/Instagram/YouTube/Cosplay Amino is all happycosplayer

Cosplayers who have taken the pledge and shared their photo uploads with me be shared can be found here! (These people are wonderful! Check them out!)

Tag #happycosplayer when you take the challenge and share this on your social media and I will add you to this section and link to your page (optional)! Or you can email me the image of you holding the sign at happycosplayer@gmail.com



Male Cosplayer Spotlight: StealthNinja5

For the month of May, I am going to highlight and focus on some male cosers! Often times I feel like these talented men are overlooked, and it’s time that some are given the spotlight!

Below is a short interview with this cosplayer. Do feel free to use the link below for them to reach out and let them know you appreciate them! Thanks for reading!

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Why Do you Cosplay?

“Not only for fun but also to relive some of my best old childhood memories by working on series others were not familiar with (anime, TV series, movies, video games, etc.).”

When you hear the words ‘Cosplay Community’ what first comes to your mind?

“A society where everyone show-and-tell their work as well as exchanging knowledge on cosplay construction.”

“Who inspires you?

“I’d say Misa On Wheels. Although I do not have any sempais, she is one of the true inspirations to us all, telling us to keep on doing what we like, no matter how many “walls” get placed to get in our way to ruining our fun.”

“Do you have any goals you wish to share?”

“Continue working on more old-school series as well as any other characters that might interest me enough to doing so, as well as learn how to use a sewing machine like others have on their cosplay work”

Check out this cosplayers Social Media links and leave some encouraging feedback!

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StealthNinja5cosplay


Male Cosplayer Spotlight: The One Cosplayer

For the month of May, I am going to highlight and focus on some male cosers! Often times I feel like these talented men are overlooked, and it’s time that some are given the spotlight!

Below is a short interview with this cosplayer. Do feel free to use the link below for them to reach out and let them know you appreciate them! Thanks for reading!

Photographer Credits: Sketchy Drew Photography

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Why Do you Cosplay?

“It’s a fun hobby that helps bring me and my friends together.”

When you hear the words ‘Cosplay Community’ what first comes to your mind?

“Cosplayers online sharing their cosplays, WIPs, photoshoot, and other cosplay events, etc.”

“Who inspires you?

“My friend Saad, also known as Uchihaboy Cosplay, who got me into cosplaying”

“Do you have any goals you wish to share?”

“I want to enter in a cosplay contest at a major convention.”

Check out this cosplayers Social Media links and leave some encouraging feedback!

Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/TheOneCosplayer